Tips to become a better listener….

Listening is an art….it is said that the best conversations happen when people listen more than they talk…I agree.

Most of the time, conversations end up going no where mainly because people are trying to think what they will say instead of actually listening to what the other person is saying.

Over the years, I collected some observations and tips from my Guru Kamlesh D Patel and Chariji.

Listen with the heart

Listen with the heart

We hear with the ears, but listen with the heart. Interesting right? Next time you are having a conversation with someone, please try this.

  • Before the conversation begins, take a mental pause. Dive deep into your heart.
  • Feel the subtle connection with the other persons heart. All through the conversation pay attention to this connection between hearts.

I noticed something magical. Whenever I do this, I maintain perfect eye contact and nothing distracts me. These conversations are cherished ones…give it a try and let me know how it goes….

Do not make anyone irrelevant


Someone told me, “When you make someone irrelevant a part of you dies inside….” Often times in conversations I have been guilty of doing this. I simply tune out. Nowadays, I try not to do this. Things become meaningful.

People want to be heard…In fact the best service I can offer to someone in anguish is by listening politely to their problem.This doesn’t simply mean that I am quiet. It also means I don’t entertain any other thoughts…I try sincerely to listen.Its difficult…

Never Judge


Babuji of SRCM has said (I am paraphrasing) “Prejudice is a poison that can destroy the edifice of spirituality”. It can malign relationships for life. So please, whatever the other person has to share listen. If you don’t agree with something, then in the quiet of the night pray for guidance and help.

I hope these tips help you as much as they continue to help me.

Thanks for reading and happy listening!